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Monthly Mental Health: On Grief

Monthly Mental Health: On Grief

For many of us, August represents the warmth of summer, leisurely vacations, sea, sand, and surf. It’s the last hurrah before school begins again, fall creeps in, and we start to contemplate wearing sweaters, coats, and boots. For the Duke of Cambridge, however, August has another meaning, as this August 31st will be the seventeenth anniversary of the loss of his mother, Diana, Princess of Wales.


No one can truly understand another person’s grief and loss; however, the Duke of Cambridge is fortunate to have a partner who has shown herself to be kind, understanding, and gracious when dealing with the grief of others. She demonstrated these qualities clearly when, in 2012, she chose to be the royal patron of East Anglia Children’s Hospices. By doing so, she has shone a light on the need for support and care for children facing life-threatening conditions and their families.


Kate not only draws attention to children’s hospices in England – she has also visited hospices while on tour. Kate visited Hospis Malaysia in September 2012, and also visited Bear Cottage in Australia and Rainbow Place Children’s Hospice in New Zealand during the royal tour earlier this year. After her visit to Bear Cottage, she said that she was “ready for a big sob,” admitting to her own feelings of sadness in the face of the grief of others.


Kate also showed her grace and empathy while visiting Child Bereavement UK with Prince William in March 2013. She and William participated in a private meeting with eight parents who had lost children, and demonstrated care and compassion to those who were grieving.


It can be very challenging to handle the grief of others – especially those that we love. I think that the natural reaction to seeing someone’s sadness is to try and “make it better.” Unfortunately, when dealing with grief and loss, this is impossible to achieve. You cannot make the loss go away, or make the sadness lessen.  I am a firm believer that we all have our own journey with grief. Instead of trying to understand another’s grief, it is more beneficial to do what you can to support that person through their journey. But the question remains, how can we best support and care for those who are grieving? We can look at Kate’s behavior – her empathy and graciousness – to find examples of what we can do in the face of another person’s grief.

Primary to supporting someone who is grieving is to give them the time, space, and understanding necessary for them to do so. Giving the gift of time to someone who has lost a loved one is surprisingly simple, yet often overlooked. In order to support someone, remember that the loss will continue to be felt and that there is no time limit on grief. Immediately after a loss, one is often inundated with well-wishers, emails, notes, and phone calls. In the recent aftermath of a loss, such non-stop contact from others can be a welcome strength and source of support. But then, after the first couple of days or weeks, the notes stop coming and the phone stops ringing. All of a sudden, there is quiet and loneliness in the face of the loss. Giving someone who is grieving the gift of time means remembering that grief is a long process – sometimes life-long. For example, the loss of a mother, like for Prince William, is not only felt in the immediate aftermath of the loss, but for every Mothering Sunday, birthday, graduation, and anniversary after.


It may be more challenging to give someone the space to grieve. Remembering that our tendency is to “fix it” or “make it better.” Giving someone space requires you to leave these inclinations at home. Give the person space to be sad, rather than try to distract or to placate him or her. Don’t be afraid when someone is sad, or when he or she chooses to have some alone time. As I said before, grief is a journey, and sometimes it is a journey that needs to be walked alone.


Finally, the greatest gift you can give someone who is grieving is the gift of understanding and acceptance. Understanding of their need for privacy or for company. Understanding of their need for mindless distractions or to immerse themselves in work. Acceptance that grief is a life-long process, that sadness will pop up unexpectedly, and that previously happy occasions may now be bittersweet.

There are many resources available to those who are facing or have experienced the loss of a loved one. The Duchess of Cambridge’s work with children’s hospices and her visit to Child Bereavement UK demonstrates this. Child Bereavement UK is an outstanding organization that not only provides support to those who are grieving, but also gives training to professionals on the topic of grief. Their website is a goldmine of information and support, and I strongly recommend looking through it in order to find suggestions for how to help a loved one who is experiencing grief.

Grief affects us all – let’s learn together how to help one another.

What’s in a Royal Title?

What’s in a Royal Title?

If you’ve ever been on Twitter during a “what is Kate’s last name” debate, you know to stay far, far away from that fire. For whatever reason, the most hotly debated topic is Kate’s official title. On her wedding day, Catherine received a royal title befitting of her new royal status as the wife ofContinue Reading

The Royal Tour Dream Team

The Royal Tour Dream Team

The New Zealand and Australia Royal Tour is almost here! We are so excited to see the various events, wonderful cities, and photo opportunities (mostly of Prince George of the Chubby Cheeks, of course) during those three weeks down unda. Along with William, Kate, and George, there will be a professional team of royal aidesContinue Reading

Being the ‘New Girl’

Being the ‘New Girl’

We’ve all been the ‘new girl’ at some point in our lives, probably more than once – school, university, parties, at work. I’ve VERY recently started at a new job and I’m currently the ‘new girl’, but our favourite lady, Kate, has also been the new girl numerous times, not only at university when sheContinue Reading

Charity Single to be performed for Kate at Naomi House

Charity Single to be performed for Kate at Naomi House

On Monday, Kate will be visiting the Naomi House Children’s Hospice, a children’s respite care facility in Hampshire. Naomi House provides support to families of children living with limiting conditions through respite stays, hospice, and emergency support. Kate will tour the facilities and attend a tea party with some of the children staying at NaomiContinue Reading

Kate, William and Harry visit Warner Bros – Leavesden

Kate, William and Harry visit Warner Bros – Leavesden

Today, the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge and Prince Harry made a very exciting visit to Warner Brothers Studios in Leavesden. Potterheads were all abuzz for the event, as the Warner Brothers Studios in Leavesden is home to many Harry Potter sets and scenery. (Our contributor, Emma, was particularly enthused!) First on the agenda wasContinue Reading

Kate Official Engagement: NPG Reception for The Art Room

Kate Official Engagement: NPG Reception for The Art Room

This evening, the Duchess of Cambridge attended a reception at the National Portrait Gallery in support of one of her patronages, The Art Room. The event was designed to spotlight the organization, and to allow Kate to meet children who benefit from the program. The Art Room was one of Kate’s first patronages. The organizationContinue Reading

Hi Ho, Hi Ho, It’s Back to Work I (and soon Kate) Go…

Hi Ho, Hi Ho, It’s Back to Work I (and soon Kate) Go…

After the whole broken ankle fiasco, I finally made it back to work, officially, last week. This has meant two things for me: I’ve had to wake up early and get myself ready to leave the house before I’d even open my eyes before and that no matter what you do, going back to workContinue Reading

Working Girl: Time to Move On

I am certain we have all been there. You wake up one morning and you’re lying in bed, staring at the ceiling, and suddenly and all at once you hate your job. You don’t know how or why it happens, but one morning you really cannot stand it anymore. It takes all your effort toContinue Reading

New Things at WWKD

New Things at WWKD

What’s New at WWKD? There are a lot of changes going on at WWKD. We want to improve the website to make it more exciting for our readers. It’s still the same girls, the same content, and the same love for Kate, but with small changes. What does this mean for you, our loving readers?Continue Reading

Why Being a Princess is A Real Career… And How to Become One

Why Being a Princess is A Real Career… And How to Become One

I don’t normally watch episodes of Sesame Street, so forgive me for missing the news that Sonya Sotomayor was on recently and was discussing how girls needed to find a career- and how being a Princess was not a viable option. In case you did too, the video can be seen at the bottom ofContinue Reading

Get It Together : Making a List

I, like most people I imagine, wake up every morning with the best of intentions about how much I am going to accomplish during the day that lay ahead. Maybe today is the day I’ll knock things off my theoretical to-do list, finish that nagging chore or even take the time to organize some random cabinetContinue Reading

Finding the Perfect Kate-inspired Job

Finding the Perfect Kate-inspired Job

In today’s economy, finding a comfortable job is like finding the perfect pair of denim jeans. When you look at money, location, ideal qualities, you find yourself without jeans and without employment. You might find something that fits for a while, but with time, you find that wear has taken its toll. It is timeContinue Reading

Kate’s Fall(en) for Coats

Kate’s Fall(en) for Coats

Well friends, it’s been a rough couple of days for me with my beloved Mac having been in the Apple shop for a few days. What’s a blogger to do without a computer? As I discovered, they apparently obsessively call Apple and try to type posts on their iPads; unfortunately for me both were doneContinue Reading

Duchess Kim? Why a Kardashian Wants to Be Like Kate

Duchess Kim? Why a Kardashian Wants to Be Like Kate

Kim Kardashian is not exactly known for being shall we say a classy lady. If you don’t believe me, let’s remember the reason why she’s famous: a sex tape which was released and then spun into a reality series about her family which has now spun into Kardashian-mania. Her busty outfits, skimpy dresses and figureContinue Reading