We’ve all been the ‘new girl’ at some point in our lives, probably more than once – school, university, parties, at work. I’ve VERY recently started at a new job and I’m currently the ‘new girl’, but our favourite lady, Kate, has also been the new girl numerous times, not only at university when she met William, but also in front of the whole world in the media, in the Royal family, and at various events over the years. Over the past week in my new job, I’ve been wondering just how I can make the best of this time and just what Kate does when she’s the ‘new girl’ and here are a few of the tips I’ve gathered over the days and what I think Kate would do.
#1 Ask questions – I’ve been told so many times the past few days to ask questions, even if they seem stupid. It’s much easier to ask questions than to sit there not knowing what to do for hours. Someone yesterday told me to ask as many questions as I needed and if anyone was rude because I’m ‘wasting their time’, to ignore them, because you’d probably actually end up wasting more time by NOT asking. By questioning things, you’ll learn, and you’ll seem more interested.
#2 Try to make conversation – I’ve been struggling with this one, especially because I find my desk buddy, who started on the same day as me, fairly attractive, and attractive people make me die. But say hello to people in the morning and try to find some common ground. Be open to learning about them and noticing little things about people – they’ll appreciate it, or at least I would appreciate if somebody noticed something small about me. Bring up topics you would never even consider bringing up even if it’s only a way to talk to someone – I brought up pens yesterday and he learnt all about my aversion to black pens.
#3 Be smart – even if you don’t feel like you’re the smartest one in the world, act like you know your stuff and don’t play down anything you’re good at.
#4 Take a notebook and a pen. Just do it.
#5 Don’t beat yourself up – you’re new so of course, you might feel a bit useless for the first few weeks or even months while you find your feet. Don’t expect too much of yourself and don’t get down if you feel like your team and managers are a bit disappointed with your progress – they know you’re new and they’ve all been new themselves so they know how your feel, and if they forget being the new person in the room once, then ignore them.
#6 Rest – a new job can bring on extreme tiredness and exhaustion while you over-exert yourself during the day trying to cram in as much information as possible, combined with the emotions of being new and dealing with that alone. Don’t put any extra stresses on yourself and definitely get more sleep.
Take comfort in the fact that you will not be the new girl forever, and soon, someone else will come along and be who you were, and when they come along, remember how you felt and help them. Just like Kate will not always be the new royal, whenever Prince Harry’s future woman turns up, she’ll take over that role, and I’m sure Kate will do her best to help in every way.