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Royally Rude: How would Kate deal with mean comments?

Royally Rude: How would Kate deal with mean comments?

If you’ve ever logged onto the Daily Mail’s website, you know there are hundreds of crazy rude royal watchers in this world. We should call them anti-royal watchers, since they sit around and wait for news to criticize. This is  nothing new – the internet is becoming a place for passive-aggressive cruelty, with cyber bullying and cyber attacks making weekly headlines. As someone who closely follows the news, especially royally-related stories, I have seen more hateful comments that I ever thought possible.

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560 Comments on this article from June

Last week, I received two critical comments on an article I wrote. One was a reasonable opinion, but the second was a rude, personal attack on myself and on the Duchess of Cambridge. We are very lucky to have  a community of strong, thoughtful, and considerate readers and followers who rarely go beyond a heated debate. Sometimes, however, we receive a rude, downright mean remark on Kate, her family, her choices, and sometimes even ourselves.

Immediately, I asked myself – what would Kate do? My reaction was immediate. I deleted the comment. Then, I marked it as spam – because that hateful attack was not welcome on my website. It has been said that the Duchess of Cambridge purposely avoids media outlets that might write stories about her. She steers clear of social media, tabloids, and websites where she might find hurtful remarks about her. And if she does catch a glimpse of the madness – perhaps in line at Tesco – I can see her laughing to herself and turning the cover the other way.

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In our own lives, we can avoid the evil places that hateful remarks might be hiding. Block or report bullies on Facebook or Twitter immediately. Stay away from websites that may write distasteful articles on yourself, your family, or your personal life. Delete any mean-spirited e-mails before opening them. You have the power to avoid these encounters with the click of a small red “X” on your screen.

We laughed particularly hard at this one

What if you can’t avoid them? What if you’re standing in line at the grocery store and you see a horrible picture with an untruthful headline on the cover? Perhaps this doesn’t happen to all of us – but on occasion, we cannot avoid the hateful comment, article, or rumor. The best thing to do is read it and move on. Laugh at the cruel, desperate attempts to upset you, and then flip the cover around.

Life is too short to read the Daily Mail comments. How do you deal with internet meanness?

 

Monthly Mental Health: On Grief

Monthly Mental Health: On Grief

For many of us, August represents the warmth of summer, leisurely vacations, sea, sand, and surf. It’s the last hurrah before school begins again, fall creeps in, and we start to contemplate wearing sweaters, coats, and boots. For the Duke of Cambridge, however, August has another meaning, as this August 31st will be the seventeenth anniversaryContinue Reading

Identity: Catherine vs. Kate

Identity: Catherine vs. Kate

This month, I have the pleasure of writing to the WWKD readers while I’m on vacation, visiting my family in the Northeast USA. I use the word “vacation” loosely in this context, as I am here with my two little ones, my husband, mother, sister and my sister’s two little kiddos. It’s a full house,Continue Reading

The Modern Princess: Self-Care

The Modern Princess: Self-Care

As a psychologist, I have seen many women come in to my office feeling depleted, overwhelmed, and fatigued.  Upon discussing their history and relationships, a familiar — and unfortunate — pattern emerges.  These women balance their jobs, spouses/significant others, children, parents, siblings, and friends and never seem to take any time for themselves.  I believeContinue Reading

What’s in a Royal Title?

What’s in a Royal Title?

If you’ve ever been on Twitter during a “what is Kate’s last name” debate, you know to stay far, far away from that fire. For whatever reason, the most hotly debated topic is Kate’s official title. On her wedding day, Catherine received a royal title befitting of her new royal status as the wife ofContinue Reading

WWKD’s New Guest Submissions Program!

WWKD’s New Guest Submissions Program!

A few weeks ago, WWKD sent a request for applications for a regular writing position on our team. We were overwhelmed by the number of applications, and it was very difficult to make a final decision. Ultimately, we eenie-meenie-minie-moed and welcomed two  new contributors – Christina and Gemma – to the WWKD family.   ThisContinue Reading

The Royal Tour Dream Team

The Royal Tour Dream Team

The New Zealand and Australia Royal Tour is almost here! We are so excited to see the various events, wonderful cities, and photo opportunities (mostly of Prince George of the Chubby Cheeks, of course) during those three weeks down unda. Along with William, Kate, and George, there will be a professional team of royal aidesContinue Reading

What does Kate do?

What does Kate do?

The internet was a-buzz last week when the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge jetted off to the Maldives for a short break before their New Zealand and Australia tour. While most people were envious of their escape to warmer climates, others were disgruntled. To many, it seems that the Duchess of Cambridge does nothing.  ItContinue Reading

Rules of EtiKate: Cell Phones

Rules of EtiKate: Cell Phones

As we have discussed before on WWKD, we rarely see Kate with a cell phone. She does not walk down the street chatting into her iPhone or text while she shops. She focuses on the people she is with and the world around her, something we can all do a little more often. I amContinue Reading

Rules of EtiKate: Traveling

Rules of EtiKate: Traveling

Kate and William are known to enjoy traveling, whether it be for engagements in the US and other parts of the world, or going to Africa on holiday. Wherever you are traveling to this holiday season and beyond, here are some tips and tricks to maintain a regal elegance even when you are 30,000 feetContinue Reading

Kate’s Year in Review

Kate’s Year in Review

This past year has been an incredible time for the royal family, but most importantly The Duke and Duchess of Cambridge. 2013 brought amazing memories, fantastic events, and – oh yeah – a baby. We couldn’t end the year without a spectacular review of Kate’s best moments. There were so many wonderful things happening inContinue Reading

Rules of EtiKate: Hostessing

Rules of EtiKate: Hostessing

Now that we have all learned how to have a flawless table setting, we can start hosting fabulous dinner parties! Whether it is a small get-together, a swanky cocktail party, or a five-course formal sit-down dinner, here are some etiquette tips on how to be a gracious and regal hostess. Send out invitations far inContinue Reading

Rules of EtiKate: Setting a Formal Table

Rules of EtiKate: Setting a Formal Table

While the last two EtiKate posts have been a bit aspirational (Meeting the Queen and Curtsying), this week’s post will focus on setting a formal table, a skill we can all use, whether it be at our next dinner party or the next time we sit down with our takeout. This diagram from Emily PostContinue Reading

Christmas like the Duchess

Christmas like the Duchess

For all you Americans, Thanksgiving is over and the Christmas season begins – for us in the UK, all of the shops seem think Christmas began three months ago, I digress however – and I feel that now it’s just a two days until December, we can now all allow ourselves to get that littleContinue Reading