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Rules of EtiKate: Weddings

Rules of EtiKate: Weddings

If you are anything like me, you are either at the age or approaching the age in which it seems that every other day, a new friend on Facebook is getting engaged. Engagements mean weddings, which are both exciting and nerve-racking. What does Dressy Casual even mean? What is an acceptable gift to bring? Which fork do I use again?


William and Kate attend numerous weddings for their friends, extended family members, and royals from around the world. They are both always dressed impeccably for the occasion and know exactly how to behave as to not draw attention to themselves on someone else’s special day. Here are some general rules of etiquette when attending a wedding, from what to wear to how to behave at the reception.

Dress Code

You receive a beautiful wedding invitation in the mail and get super excited to wear that great dress you just bought, until you see the dress code. It seems a bit like a foreign language. Here are some of the most popular wedding dress codes translated:

Black Tie: Tuxedo for men and a long formal dress for women.
White Tie: Even more formal than black tie, men should have a black coat with longer tails, with a white vest, shirt, and tie. Women should choose an even more formal long gown and wear gloves.
Semi-Formal: A suit for men and a knee-length or mid-calf length dress for women.
Cocktail Attire: Suits for men should be dark in color and women should wear a semi-formal, elegant dress.
Dressy Casual: While men do not need a suit, a sport coat still works for dressy casual, or a nice button-down and slacks. Women should aim for a dress that is in between a sundress and a cocktail dress.
Casual: Men can get away with khakis and a polo shirt and women can wear a sundress and sandals. Even though the invitation says casual, most experts agree that it is not acceptable for either men or women to show up to a wedding in jeans.

While in the past it has been frowned upon to wear black to a wedding, it is now perfectly acceptable, as long as the dress is the proper amount of formalness. Etiquette rules also say it is acceptable to wear white to a summer wedding. If Pippa can do it, so can you. Furthermore, be aware of where the wedding will be held. Dress appropriately for the couple’s venue or religious facility.

Ceremony

During the ceremony, guests should be respectful of the seriousness of the event. Talking should be kept to a minimum and flash photography can be distracting to the couple or to other guests. Make sure your phone is on silent. If you are comfortable participating in their religious activities during the ceremony, go for it; if not, just sit quietly in your seat. Finally, do not bring an unexpected guest to the ceremony if the couple did not expressly note on the invitation that you could bring a guest. This is their special day, so you should respect who they want at their ceremony.

Gifts

Choosing the perfect wedding gift can be both exhilarating and stress-inducing. It is best to look at the couple’s wedding registry to get a feel for what they may need but it is not mandatory to buy a gift from the registry. Be creative but keep the couple in mind one hundred percent. Cash gifts are also considered completely acceptable by modern etiquette. It is now most commonly asked of guests to send gifts to a specific address instead of bringing them directly to the wedding, as it is difficult for the couple to then lug all of the gifts home after the reception. Also, according to Emily Post, gifts should be sent “before the wedding or as soon after the wedding as possible.”

Reception

Finally, you’ve made it to the reception! It’s time to party! Be respectful of the hard work and dedication the bride put into planning this evening. Do not make side comments about her decorations, her music, or her food. Have fun and be respectful of the traditions they are going to partake in; be present for toasts, cake cutting, and the bouquet toss. Most importantly, remember that this is the bride and groom’s day. Do not draw too much attention to yourself or make it all about you. Congratulate the bride and groom and have fun celebrating with them!

Embracing Everyday Gracefulness

Embracing Everyday Gracefulness

When I was the ripe old age of five years old, I started taking ballet classes. While I was never good enough to become a professional ballerina (even though I dreamed about it), I learned a lot in my ten years of pink tights, ballerina buns, and plies. As I grew older, I had toContinue Reading

Rules of EtiKate: Cell Phones

Rules of EtiKate: Cell Phones

As we have discussed before on WWKD, we rarely see Kate with a cell phone. She does not walk down the street chatting into her iPhone or text while she shops. She focuses on the people she is with and the world around her, something we can all do a little more often. I amContinue Reading

Rules of EtiKate: Traveling

Rules of EtiKate: Traveling

Kate and William are known to enjoy traveling, whether it be for engagements in the US and other parts of the world, or going to Africa on holiday. Wherever you are traveling to this holiday season and beyond, here are some tips and tricks to maintain a regal elegance even when you are 30,000 feetContinue Reading

Princess Pamper Evening Essentials

Princess Pamper Evening Essentials

  Kate has a busy life; what with juggling Royal engagements with being a new mother, and will sometimes get stressed and feel run down at the end of the day. We too feel like this sometimes, juggling our jobs with our social lives, and seemingly making time for everyone else but ourselves. Taking someContinue Reading

Rules of EtiKate: Hostessing

Rules of EtiKate: Hostessing

Now that we have all learned how to have a flawless table setting, we can start hosting fabulous dinner parties! Whether it is a small get-together, a swanky cocktail party, or a five-course formal sit-down dinner, here are some etiquette tips on how to be a gracious and regal hostess. Send out invitations far inContinue Reading

Rules of EtiKate: Setting a Formal Table

Rules of EtiKate: Setting a Formal Table

While the last two EtiKate posts have been a bit aspirational (Meeting the Queen and Curtsying), this week’s post will focus on setting a formal table, a skill we can all use, whether it be at our next dinner party or the next time we sit down with our takeout. This diagram from Emily PostContinue Reading

Rules of EtiKate: Curtsying

Rules of EtiKate: Curtsying

This week’s EtiKate will look at the act of curtsying. Curtsying is a gesture of respect or reverence made by women by bending the knees with one foot forward and lowering the body. It is considered the female version of the bow. In the past, women would curtsy to anyone of superior social rank. WhileContinue Reading

Growing Old(er) Royally

Growing Old(er) Royally

We all get older. Ok, so I’m only 19 and still in the depths of endless acne treatments but even I look in the mirror every day just to see if I’ve got any lines on my forehead yet. Recently, on London Poppy Day, we saw press photos of Kate with the first signs ofContinue Reading

Rules of EtiKate: Meeting the Queen

Rules of EtiKate: Meeting the Queen

This week, we will be starting a new series centered around tips and tricks for royal etiquette and how to incorporate those tips into your daily life. While we may never marry Prince Harry and become British royalty, Kate has given us a stunning example of how to act regal and ladylike at all times.Continue Reading

Guest Stays: How To Do It The Kate Way

This past month I was surprised with a last minute invite to a friend’s beach house in Seaside, Florida to stay for the weekend.  I was delighted to accept, as I had needed a little “me” time.  I’ve been invited to stay a couple of times before, and each time I’ve been blown away byContinue Reading

Princess Pedicure

Princess Pedicure

Sunny days have arrived! The much-anticipated spring sunshine is finally here, and with it comes wonderful spring and summer fashions! Rejoice! Sundresses, floral prints and sandals! Open toed shoes are a marvel of modern fashion. 100 years ago, women simply didn’t wear open-toed shoes. Nowadays, we practically live in them from April to September. And withContinue Reading

The Lost Art of the Thank You Note

A few months ago, I lent my fancy-schmancy baby monitor out to a friend of a friend who had a newborn baby with some minor breathing problems. She was worried about bringing this new baby home and couldn’t afford the expensive monitor with the breathing sensor and video monitoring. Our mutual friend knew I hadContinue Reading

The Modern Princess : Princess Prep School for Grown-Ups

The Modern Princess : Princess Prep School for Grown-Ups

The Heiress and I started talking about Princess Prep recently through both our Princess as a Career article as well as December Regal Reads. If you’re not familiar, it’s a “Princess Bootcamp” session set up by one of our favorite authors, Jerramy Fine, for young girls in London to teach them Princess worthy skills suchContinue Reading